All brides aspire to have the ideal wedding day. On the other hand, there are certain aspects of your wedding that you may manage, such as the attire, location, and catering. It is not always possible to ensure that everything will proceed as planned.

Still, this bride knew exactly how she wanted her wedding day to go. However, she quickly learns that not everyone sees things the same way. To find out more, continue reading.

A soon-to-be bride posted a question on Reddit that she had been thinking about: am I being unreasonable? She commented about her predicament on the well-known “AITAH” forum, which stands for Am I The Asshole.

A soon-to-be bride wrote on social media that after she and her fiancé distributed a list of guidelines to the wedding guests, they started getting cancellations.

Before she started writing, she stated that she wanted to clarify that her fiancé had equally contributed to the rules and was fully in favor of them, so as to dispel the misconception that she was “bridezilla” enforcing them against his will.

She continued by outlining each rule separately.

The couple desired a ceremony that was “unpluggled.” Unless there was a “huge” emergency, guests were not allowed to have phones with them during the ceremony or the meal that followed. While guests were aware that phones were not allowed during the ceremony, some felt that the prohibition against using phones throughout supper went a bit too far.

It was brought up by some parents that they needed their phones to check on their kids while they were at home, but she had warned them that if she had to make an exception for them, she would have to make it for everyone. “Checking with your kids is not an emergency,” the writer stated. You’ll know if something significant occurs.

The couple also had a strict color scheme and dress code. People were asked only to wear black, and women had to wear dresses, and men needed to wear tuxedos. There were no exceptions to the rule. Her aunt, who lost her husband and spent time in black clothing while she was grieving, had finally returned to a more colorful wardrobe and was also not an exception. Even when she said black clothes made her feel depressed now. Her future sister-in-law who has body dysmorphia also had issues with the dress code as she always wore pants to feel more comfortable with her body; no exception would be made for her as well.

They ordered the bridesmaid dresses months in advance and told their bridesmaids to maintain their weight; whether that meant eating less or eating more to do so.

She said her mother was livid about these rules and told the bride her wedding has been doomed from the start. Her bridesmaids also threatened to drop out, and she has wedding guests cancelling on them last minute.

Her maid of honor’s daughter was to be their flower girl, but now this was not happening. The bride asked for the flower girl to be left at a hotel with a babysitter during the ceremony, but the maid of honor did not agree to this, and instead plans on leaving her daughter with her mother since the wedding venue is a four-hour drive for them.

And of course, even with her preface and warning, people still thought she and her fiance were the ones being completely unreasonable and was most definitely the ‘assholes.’

A lot of people pointed out that while weddings can be according to the couple’s wishes, people did not have to abide by their rules and had every right to opt out of their wedding.

All in all, it was pretty unanimous on Reddit that the couple was the one being unreasonable in their demand.

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What do you think of this couple and their demands for their wedding guests? Let us know in the comments!